Archive for November, 2005
Dating in America is severely afflicted
The dating columns printed in The Daily Aztec Tempo section (”How the good guys can still have great success with girls” and “Too much nice gets stale fast,” Nov. 3) depressed me immensely.
The section featured two articles. One gave “nice guys” advice to supposedly help them get more girls - advice amounting to: Don’t be too nice because it’s equated with desperation. In the second column, the author described her brief relationship with a nice guy that became “stale” because “it was just too easy.” What a disheartening and painful revelation about our social hierarchy.
It’s baffling why the “nice guy” image is portrayed as being repulsive. Girls complain that he brought them flowers and candy, took them on expensive dates, had intellectual conversations, seemed genuinely interested in what she had to say and respected her as a person. At this point, I stare in blank confusion. Where, I wonder, lies the problem? According to the column by Maggie Grainger, there was no challenge in her relationship, and as a result, she got bored. What a blow to the male psyche: Nice is boring. Women complain that men objectify us, but seemingly their purpose is entertainment. There is no relationship in that - you get that from a television set.
